A Stress-Less Life Is Possible
It is only recently, when compared to man’s rite of passage on this orb that the mind has undergone such determined scrutiny. It has been probed, prodded, questioned, studied, watched, and analyzed for everything from Alzheimer’s to Williams Syndrome. Organizations are dedicated to the diagnosis and treatment of every part of the brain by the myriad of universities, national laboratories, and research centers around the world.
Startling research and medical advances have been made and progress moves constantly forward, yet people still struggle with one of the simplest day-to day challenges – living a life free from the mental constraints we place upon ourselves. We are the very victims of our own thoughts, whether we made them up or they are born of fact, for they remain our reality and we struggle with them on a daily basis.
People have mastered anger and resentment at just about everything in our lives, living or inanimate. We struggle with challenge, change, and adaptation. We talk about, witness, and use road rage, outcry, and abusive language as we flounder in our inability to adapt to a changing world. Day-to-day living is crowded with turmoil, rush, and attempts to assert ourselves beyond the envelope of social acceptance.
Conditioned to live and learn the techniques of discomfort, dishonesty, and repressing our real feelings has left us wondering and wandering about in a state of induced displeasure. We get angry at our spouse, children, pets, weather, work, vehicles, our games, homes, neighbors, and every inanimate object imaginable, and remain irritated for longer and longer periods of time.
The cycle repeats itself too often. We forget that everyone, and even everything, is allowed a basic right. Those basic human rights include the right to do anything as long as you do not purposely hurt someone else and you accept any consequences of your actions, the right to maintain your self-respect by answering yourself and others honestly even if it hurts someone, but only if you remain self-assured that doing so is in the best interest of all, the right to change your ideas and ideals and your behavior to satisfy someone else, it is your right to strive for self-actualization, the right to use your own judgment to prioritize your need and the needs of others if you choose to accept responsibility for another’s problems or actions, the right not to be subjected to negativity, the right to offer no excuse or justify your behavior or your decisions, the right not to care, the right to be illogical, the right to change your mind, and it is your right to defend yourself.
The forgoing list is comprehensive, yet it is enamored with innuendo, for people often take these basic rights out of context. An example, let’s say you were cut off on the freeway on the way to work. You shake your fist and shout obscenities, then race forward getting nearer and nearer to the offending driver, blowing your horn so the offending driver sees you and by your action acknowledges their intrusion on your space – after all, it is your right to offer no excuse or to justify your behavior – isn’t it?
Why bother? Why not remain patient, forgiving, and stress free. The five second delay will not earn you anything. The fact is there aren’t any extenuating circumstances that result in a positive outcome in such a scenario. Let the driver go ahead. It’s less stressful, won’t leave you feeling angry or even guilty later on, and culminates toward a goal of creating a more satisfactory life.